The 2nd March 1974 is where it all started. 

         Let me just share with you how we actually met. 

I am, amongst other things, an oral hygienist. This is where we met for the first time.

The receptionist at the time knew Bruce. She was dating his brother and eventually, they got married.

In walks this HUNK of a man. From the get-go, I couldn't take my eyes off him. He was extremely handsome, had shoulder-length hair, and brown eyes, walked upright, and had a burgundy suit on with a PINK shirt. (Later when pink shirts came to be fashion he refused to wear them).

As young women, we all dream of the day when we will meet the man of our dreams, well this day has arrived for me. This was him, the man of my dreams.

There is a consensus that when you meet the right man " you just know it" This was the one for me.

It was definitely "Love at first sight", from my side for sure.

I felt a connection, even though we were only in each other's company for a little while.

It was an intense and overwhelming experience for a 19-year-old girl, but it was real. He caught my attention and he captured my heart. It was an amazing and exciting experience for me anyway. I wasn't sure what he thought of me. But it was there, the connection was there for sure.

Of course, I could not wait to ask the receptionist how she knew him, who he was, his surname, and a whole lot of questions about this man.

My heart was broken when she told me he was engaged. Now that was a letdown.

Pursuing a guy that was engaged was not going to happen. Not dating a guy who is engaged is the right choice. Hard but it was the right thing to do.

In my mind it was important to remember that being engaged means that someone has already made a commitment to another person. Pursuing a relationship with someone who is engaged, not only shows a lack of respect for their commitment but also sets you up for potential heartbreak.

Even if he is interested in me it is probably wise to steer clear of a situation that will be complicated and potentially harmful to every person involved.

By respecting his engagement I know I am also respecting myself and my own self-worth.

I also deserve someone who is going to be fully committed to me.

I had my heart broken in a few seconds flat. Goodness here I fall head over heels in Love and I don't know a thing about the person. My own doing.

Am I the only one that this has happened to?

I'd like to hear from you about this.

I made the decision not to show my interest in him should I see him at the practice again. I have experienced what can happen when there are 3 in a relationship. I lived with it. My father was not faithful to my Stepmom.

Living with my decision was difficult. It's natural to second-guess yourself and wonder if you made the right choice.

However, it's important to remember that once you've made a decision, you can't go back in time and change it.

The best thing you can do is to accept your decision and move forward with confidence. Which is exactly what I did.

I made the decision for a reason, whether it was based on logic, intuition, or a combination of both.

Now I have to try to focus on the positive aspects of my decision and the potential benefits it can bring.

Every decision we make is an opportunity to learn and grow.

As readers, you are an important part of any story. You provide the motivation and encouragement that I need to keep going.

So as I keep writing and sharing my story with you I truly hope it will keep you captivated and in a small way help you.

With love always.

Ada

PS. I am posting weekly from now on. Life has just been one rollercoaster of emotions and situations which has kept me busy.

Please bear with me as my story continues.